Comments on: Signs You Live With A Meth User

By: It sucks

It sucks — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 06:58:17 +0000

My family member, well apparently has been doing meth for who knows how long. He said he has completely stopped after getting caught on dui, then police found meth paraphanlia in his car etc. went to jail. he claims jail has frightened him enough and that… he will never do the deed again.

Often I find it hard to believe, sometimes he WILL not bring his cellphone in. me and family members see this as a red flag. we are afraid, whenever we notice something suspicious(found candles under his sink, found a lighter in trash.) we ask him about all these and he claims the lighter was old he threw it out. he claimed that the candles were to steralize a needle to remove something on the skin. its so hard to live this way. we love him, none of us want to live questioning every single move he makes, its terrible. however its him who made us this way, or meth that is.

when asked WHY he would ever do such a thing he claimed, he wanted to be superman he thought he could complete it all with a little kick.

we never are able to see in his vehicle to make sure it is safe. if he says NO. NO. NO. IM DONE. constantly is it time for us to believe him? but how can one just quit so fast. also i notice he sweats a lot.. his physical appearance was shabby before we found all this out, however its better than it was before. we told him that maybe rehab would be smart however he said hes been through enough as is and will stop.

if you have any suggestions on my current situation feel free to comment back… perhaps myself and other family members are to paranoied… its just after finding that someone you love, trust… look up to… has lied to you for so long, getting that back is HORRIBLY difficult.

thank you.
-tired of questioning everything

By: Amber

Amber — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 04:22:57 +0000

Youre dead on, Ive been struggling with someone elses meth addiction for 3 years now. My life has been as consumed by this drug problem as his has. However I would have included that you know when theyre about to go on a binge. I can always see it coming. The restlessness, and picking fights to have a reason to leave, maybe you didnt expierence this because in my situation I got to the point where I felt like it was my job to babysit and make sure it didnt happen again. This never works, it just makes the fighting and lying worse, and has caused me to feel like I dont have a life or purpose outside of trying to save someone from a world that has consumed them. I have become the team to beat, the bad guy, the one that stands between him and what he now deems most important. I am trying to take the next step, I love this person to a depth that is nothing short of insane considering the disregard of how his choices have effected my life. However I no longer believe that I can help him. Switching gears like this is very difficult for me, partly because I have almost completely invest all my time, money, thoughts, and emotions into “fixing this”.Which means that I am dealing with a drastic change, trying to do whats best for me-instead of what I think is best for him. I do believe that I will eventually adjust to this, the question I have for you is how do you cope with wondering if maybe there is more that you can do and worrying about where theyre life will go from here? The last thing I said to him was “theres no part of me that loves you any less, but I give up”.

By: E.G.

E.G. — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:48:54 +0000

You state,”I don’t write this with the expertise of a doctor who has studied patients and run tests”. I say you’re right on! My Mother (80yo) lives with and has been taken advantage of by a family of meth addicts, 2 generations! My brother, also among them, is a user. I spotted it right away, but my Mother wouldn’t believe me, because they’re all so ‘nice’. I’ve been trying to get her out of this mess for over a year. I read this article to my Mother and it was enlightening to her. I’ve been trying to get her to move in with my wife and I for a while now. Your article helped her to make that decision. I’ve contacted the police and pertinent agencies to get involved, which turns out to be easier said then done, but still I’m making progress.

Keep up the good work!!!!

By: waffles

waffles — Tue, 27 May 2008 21:47:56 +0000

Thank you for your comment Ozelene…

I’ve found that many meth users pick up other addicting habits as well, such as cigarettes and alcohol. Those things, they say, help to ease the crash. I never saw that to be true. The crash was always terrible no matter what. Do the best you can, but remember that you have to protect yourself first. Meth users will suck the life out of those around them, especially people who care for them most. If your son doesn’t get some sort of help, you may want to consider limiting his role in your life. And never let his threats persuade you. Don’t be afraid to call the police. Sometimes being arrested can make a meth user back off the use for at least a while. And he would know you mean business.

I wish you the best with your son.

By: Ozelene

Ozelene — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:49:14 +0000

After reading your article I was greatly enlightened about my son. He had made meth only one time that I know of-and shows the symptoms here described, and also by his actions.
He was clanging in the kitchen at wee hours of the morning not unusual for him since he is has a bipolar disorder….and had became aquainted with the wrong crowd. My daughter found the brown sticky substance in the oven drriper pan, and when she opened the door the toxic substance consumed her eyes and she had a sudden cough for hours..he remarked about it or her “KRUDE”. And once he needed my truck-keys to suddenly go out for cold medicne, he had a cold so he said. This was at 1:00 a.m. And he has had a lover, she is in his life or is it meth? I know he and a few friends bought weed. Now, he loves to smoke cigars, and ciggs, and why does he need plastic? My daughter threw out everything plastic! He hates his sister, and I pray for her protection. He tries to get her in trouble with the Law. Julie avoids him and his actions are extreme highs, lots of energy when he is not taking a nap or watching TV. But, he is mentally sick anyway. Do you have any comments for us?