Have you used the dating site ChristianMingle.com? We would like to hear from you?
After seeing their “Find God’s match for you” commercial for the umpteenth time, we figured this was a good time to check the site out for ourselves, so we will offer you our impression of the site, and seek reviews from those who have also used it.
When you first visit the site, it’s reminiscent of most dating sites, which basically won’t let you do anything until you sign up. So we did just that, and setting up a profile was easy and relatively pain-free. You answer a series of questions just as you would expect with any dating site, except there are a couple questions asking you to identify which sect of Christianity to which you belong. Fair enough.
While creating my profile, I found it ironic that there was no option to select sexual orientation – so it is apparently only for straight Christians, but they do have the option to select that you drink “as much as possible.” And while there is no option to set your current relationship status as “Married,” those who are “involved” or “Dating someone” can enter and search for dates.
Having some experience with dating sites, I decided to set up a female profile, with no photo or bio so I could browse the site further. I selected a female because it has been my experience that women get contacted far more than men on these sites. I found their color-coded matches based on personality types to be an interesting angle.
I began browsing profiles of men in my area to see who was out there and what the typical profile looked like. I did see one guy I actually know in real life, and I know for a fact he is a devout Christian, so I can say that there are in fact some real guys on there. But the types of men I saw seemed to vary greatly. Some men had photos of themselves flexing their muscles in the mirror, with no mention of God or faith in their profiles, while other men seemed to pour their faith on almost a little too thick.
On the plus side, there seemed to be a large selection of men around my age in my area. Many of them state their Christian beliefs in their profiles. Some of the profiles were just plain confusing, such as the gray haired, divorced, retired man who listed his age as 18. Another guy appeared to be flashing a gang sign in his profile picture. One minor irritation was that paid or promoted profiles in the search results appeared to circumvent my search criteria. I tried searching for only Caucasian men, but promoted profiles with men of all races kept appearing in my results.
I would have contacted some members, but free profiles can merely browse without the option to communicate with other members. You are allowed to compose a message, but when you attempt to send it, you’ll receive the following warning:
To send this email, you must upgrade your account. In the meantime, feel free to try it out by creating and saving a draft. Click here to upgrade to a Premium Membership now.
I can’t say that creating a draft of a message gave me any sense of value from this free account, so I went over to check out the pricing options, which as of 10/8/2012 was:
- 1 month: 29.99
- 3 months: 13.29 per month ($39.88 total)
- 6 months: 8.39 per month ($50.34 total)
- 12 months: 6.99 per month ($83.93 total)
As I viewed the prices, I noticed that they were kind enough to pre-select the 12-month option for me. Also note that you have to subscribe first before you can turn off the auto-renew feature. In other words, all subscriptions are created with the auto-renew feature enabled. This is a rather disappointing, and unfortunately common, tactic implemented in a way that most users will forget to go back and turn auto-renew off after they’ve subscribed.
Within an hour of creating a profile, I had received two messages in my inbox from a user in my area. One of them said, “Great profile” even though my profile was completely devoid of any information other than the questions I answered. My profile contained no photo or bio. The other message I received asked if I could upload a photo – from this “user” who had no photo of their own. There have been reports of dating sites using fake profiles to contact new users via their internal messaging system as a means to get them to sign up and respond. I had to wonder if that was the case here.
After poking around for a couple hours, I didn’t feel as if I had a good sense as to whether or not this site would be valuable to a Christian seeking a relationship. I had the feeling that many guys on there were probably exaggerating their faith, based on type of photos they posted and some of the things they said in their bios. I also felt as if there were a large percentage of divorced single parents on the site. Obviously, most dating sites seem to be rife with those looking to re-enter the dating field, but the proportion did seem on the high side to me.
ChristianMingle is owned by Spark Networks. This company specializes in what former CEO Adam Berger referred to as “niche dating.” The company also runs JDate.com, BlackSingles.com, and LDSMingle.com. Some Christians object to this information, while others do not mind.
We have received some user reports about ChristianMingle.com. These have varied from glowing endorsements to dire warnings. I’ve met couples who met on the website and were later married. I’ve also heard horror stories of stalkers and scammers who will gain trust and then ask for money for some type of “emergency.” Obviously, any social website will have its dark side, and users must exercise extreme caution.
An interesting side note is that this site ranks ChristianMingle as #3 behind eHarmony and Match.com in their “Christian Dating Sites” list.
How to Remove Your ChristianMingle.com Profile
If you want to delete your profile on ChristianMingle, it’s a rather painless process. Navigate to “Your Account” and click the “Remove My Profile” link. From there, you will be asked a couple of questions as to why you are leaving. Answer those, click on “Continue” and that should be it.
What is your experience?
Have you used ChristianMingle.com? If so, tell us about your experience – good, bad, or ugly. Do you feel it was worth the money, and do you feel as if it is a good way to make a connection with other Christians?
You’ve probably seen the ads for ChristianMingle.com on TV. A popular ad recently states:
You’re single. You’re Christian. and you’re looking for a meaningful relationship. Find God’s match for you at ChristianMingle.com. It’s easy and it’s free. Start browsing millions of profiles on the leading site for Christian dating. If you’re hoping to build a Christ-centered relationship, log onto ChristianMingle.com today. Sometimes we wait for God to make the next move when God is saying it’s your time to act. The next move is yours. Join free now at ChristianMingle.com.
Below is one of the ubiquitous commercial for ChristianMingle.com. As of this writing, the video on Youtube had 76 likes and 556 dislikes.
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Article Updated February 6, 2013