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Signs You Live With A Meth User

Signs You Live With A Meth User

I originally wrote a similar article detailing my 15-year life with a meth user. I have yet to post it. While I still plan to post that at some point, I found it too difficult to publish at this point. If you’ve lived with a meth user, you know how emotionally, physically, and mentally draining it can be. So for the time being, I will compromise with myself and post a more objective description of meth use.I’ve read other sites, and sometimes I get the idea these “experts” have never lived with a meth user through the worst of it. I don’t write this with the expertise of a doctor who has studied patients and run tests.

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I lived with a user. For well over a decade. I was married into a family of them. I saw her family and friends all doing it. Through my ordeal I learned to hate the drug, but I also became quite familiar with the signs and the cycle that follows meth use. I may not be an expert at treating it, but I am definitely an expert at spotting it.

If you feel like someone you love may be using meth, I will describe what you might be seeing.

One common denominator of meth use is secrecy. If you’re not a fellow user or supplier, you won’t be privy to the truth of their world. They’ll lie to your face and assume you believe everything they say. Users hide their addictions, deny it, and sometimes even ridicule others for doing it (perhaps to throw us off the scent?).

Just before using, you might sense something is going on. You’ll see unusual behavior, such as disappearing into another room to take a call, going into the bathroom for 20 minutes, running a sudden “errand” that would normally wait (such as running out for milk at 1am when you still have half a gallon in the fridge). You might also see certain “friends” show up for very brief visits, sometimes not even getting out of their car.

If you haven’t been able to translate the above issues – wow you’re slow! No, just kidding. Haha.. They simply mean the meth user is looking for some drugs.

The Deal
A meth user will often go on the hunt for their drug. They’ll disappear to make phone calls, or even drive to their dealer’s house if the can’t contact him. Those are the “errands” they usually run. Or sometimes their dealer might even show up, either having been called or maybe just making a courtesy call to see if the user needs anything.

How thoughtful.

After the deal, the meth user will then go do the deed. It could be in the bathroom or in their car in a nearby field. They might also do it somewhere that is more “meth friendly” than around you, such as at another user’s house. The actual use is very brief – only a few moments.

You might see remnants of the use, such as straws, pieces of tin foil, small bags or pieces of plastic wrap, razor blades, lighters – you get the idea. These things are all standard meth-related items. If the user snorted it, he could be touching his nose often because of the sensation/irritation of sucking it up his nose.

Hey we’re just getting started. This is where you enter the picture and start to see things.

The High
After doing meth, the user will display some very obvious and animated signs. The pupils will be dilated. To me that was always the tip-off. Dilated eyes, even in a bright room, were always immediate and obvious. The skin is warm to the touch and heart is pounding. You will see a mood that is a little bit too happy. And lots of energy. Meth users often get little or no sleep for days after using. They will also display exaggerated or semi-uncontrolled mannerisms, such as constant cleaning, preening, talking, etc., along with uncontrolled twitching or facial tics. During the high, the meth user often lacks an appetite and may go an entire day eating virtually nothing. It’s not uncommon to see them overly productive, such as cleaning or doing repetitive tasks, even in the middle of the night. They might pick at their hair or skin repeatedly. Almost obsessively. When they do sleep, it might be agitated and filled with movement, sweating, talking, laughing, or gibberish. The user may exhibit a heightened sexual arousal. You may even notice that the person has an unusual odor.

So why do meth users want to be this way? They don’t. Those are only the things being externalized. Inside, they are experiencing a sense of euphoria, confidence, and well-being that is far beyond what they feel when sober. They live for the high, and deal with everything else.

Those of us on the outside can’t imagine how it becomes worth it. But it does.

The Plateau
There is a brief period between the high and the crash in which the user begins to shift behavior patters. I call this the Plateau. The high is coming to and end and the user begins to display new symptoms. He begins to slow down. He might still be animated, but in a less energetic state. If he can’t get more meth, he will start to head quickly into the crash.

The Crash (aka “Coming Down”)
When a meth user has exhausted his supply and what he ingested has worked its way through his system, we have the crash. A crashing user might spend several days in bed. He might be asleep the entire time, or is awake but lethargic. He might only getting up to use the restroom or have a quick snack. The worst part of the crash is that it’s typically accompanied by a very agitated and foul demeanor. The user can get violent and display psychotic traits and huge mood swings. Lethargic, irrational, angry, moody, and confused – these are all signs of the crash.

From my perspective, this was by far the worst part. Whereas the user is mostly irritating during the high, he is more likely to focus his crashing ire directly at you. You will likely get sucked into absurd arguments or even find yourself dodging violent behavior.

It can last a few days. A few days of hell.

The Recovery
As the crash wears off, the meth user begins to revert back to his pre-high self. He might even exhibit better than normal behavior.

And just when you think life is back to normal, the cycle soon repeats and the roller coaster ride begins again. It is exhausting and frustrating for the loved ones enduring it.

Though I’ve focused on the short-term signs of meth use, I should point out that there are long-term signs of meth use as well. Weight loss, tooth decay, poor hygiene, increased acne, dry skin, hair loss, mental illness, memory loss, paranoia, depression, and psychosis are all possible. Not all of these are necessarily reversible.

If you suspect someone you love is using meth, you need to get help. If you can’t get help, you need to get out.

Note: in 2011 I posted a follow-up to this article, about avoiding your own addiction to the addict.

  • Robert Villela

    I would advice supervised visits with your ex. I would demand him be sober if he cares. I’m sure inside he loves his children. Unfortunately, this damn meth has our loved ones lost in a illusion. Bottom line, this is just my opinion, I don’t believe and think your babies should suffer the consequences. May God bless you and your family.

  • SWood

    I have once again found myself so depressed due to my husband, ameth addict. Nothing I have ever done makes him happy, nothing will ever satisfy him like the meth. He tells me to trust him and drills it in my head.. then when I do, it’s only so he can go harder. I’m stuck. He makes me hate my life. He destroys me and is so very proud of it.

  • Peach Kay

    This is an old thread so I am probably too late. My daughter’s best friend is an addict. I call him my like a son. Anyway, we knew it for months. I knew the smell. The behavior. Everything but, naturally, he would deny it. (The three of us lived together this past summer. He did not once steal from us. Others, but not us.) A week or so ago (he has been living in his car now), he told us everything…that we were right. And even confirmed what drug it was. I felt like that confession was a good step but, for me, I find I worry more. (Right before this, he had been arrested.)

    I have not enabled him, or that is, tried not to. I love him dearly, and he knows that. (His mom keeps sending him money because she feels guilty and thinks he will use it for food. Yeah, right. She is distressed that his phone was taken from him after the arrest [duh], etc.)

    I did, however, let him live with us this summer. (Not realizing what he was using, but knew he was using something.) Some say I kept him from hitting bottom, but I am not so sure. For one, he has been homeless for years. Clearly, that’s not HIS bottom. Arrested. Also not an eye opener. Etcetera. I saw our house as a safe space. Not a place where he could use, but two people who didn’t shame him for his drug use. (Some time, towards the end of our living together, I figured out what the drug was. We moved out—he is back in his car.)

    The confession came, he still uses and I know it is up to him. He has stated, and so have I, that he can’t live with us again until he has completed rehab and is clean for a long period of time. But we are still moral support for him. The only two people who, in his opinion, love him but keep him to task. See through his bullshit every time. (When he came to visit a few weeks ago, he took cotton off the end of one of my Q-tips. ?)

    I guess that was my long-winded way of asking—is loving enabling? The living together thing was more a showing of unconditional love and trust. (He hasn’t seen either. Been a street kid for 7 years.) I have not allowed him to be verbally abusive when he comes down. (Knew this symptom before reading your blog…actually, all of it. I hate that body smell now.) He knows he won’t be in the house with us when we change our current living situation. But we are his only lifeline…solely here when HE decides he has had enough of his addiction. I just pray it’s before he kills himself. He already has lung problems and has developed facial tics at 23 YO)

    Thanks for listening.

  • Brandy Barrios

    this is heart breaking to read =(

  • Miranda Moore

    Some of these stories make me feel normal, finally I don’t feel alone in seeing and knowing the signs of my fiancé being addicted to meth. I’ve been seeing a psychologist and he told me the truest statement I’ve ever heard, “do you know how to tell when a meth addict is lying? Their lips are moving” that has stuck with me. I’m so tired of living this rollercoaster I’ve almost taken my own life because of someone else’s drug addiction, he makes me so crazy and makes me hate myself. I just have no strength to leave him.. I’m scared of where I could go I just don’t know what to do anymore..

  • Yvonne Rael

    My brother had an addiction 15-16 years ago. Since last Christmas he has been flakey with my girls. Last month he came over and over an art project he lashed out at my 15 year old daughter. I shared with him that my experience of him was the same as when he was using. He said no that he is on meds for Cancer. He had cancer 3 years ago and it was thyroid cancer they took his thyroid out but claims he is still in danger. I think its just a story. He will do anything not to work like file workers comp and now FMLA its been about 7 months since he worked but yet he still always has money. I have noticed that he is very agitated, he sweats profusely and sometimes he wont stop eating maybe when he is coming down off the high. He cleaned my Moms house from head to toe. The other day he went to the market for 3 hours and said he was at 3 different stores. He will take hours at the store or errands. He stays in the bathroom for a long time. How can I find out for sure and help him?

  • Stephany Torres

    Hi would you be able to tell me what happened after your boyfriend went thru recovery?

  • Stephany Torres

    Hello anon , can you advice me on what happened after your boyfriend went thru with recovery?

  • Anonjanedoe

    I was a user for 2yrs along with my spouse. I lost everything, was severely abused before I had enough. I am now 163days or 5months 12days clean and sober by the grace of my higher power. I suspect my spouse is using again but I’m not sure. He is not violent or angry but everything else of short term use fits but I can’t prove it yet he is stuborn and won’t cave on anything. I feel dumb, he spends most of his time in the basement and I suspect his brother gets/ sells it to him. I’m at a loss and my options are limited I don’t know how to prove it he is sneaky and pro at hiding things (I am too but can’t seem to locate proof)

  • maryann

    I am with a man who for our entire relationship has been lies, pain pills, detox, kratom, n now meth. He denies it even though I found meth pipe ,still half loaded.. (lightbulb). Hewill not admit it. He will not apologize. N im fed up! This has been going on THE WHOLE TIME n iI’m so done. When i ask him why he lied, he throws up he hasn’t n I’m a liar. His examples are, I ran outta time to go to Dr one day, n because Iintended to go but ran outta time, iI’m a liar. Hes delusional! I am losing weight, I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, my hair is falling out,n i cant continue with him!

    • SWood

      Good luck, it’ll never change. It’ll only get worse! 11 years to prove it… I live with the devil

  • Margaret Pierce

    My bf is making me crazy. He was on meth really bad for 2 years then got help at rehab. While he was in rehab, I quit drinking and quit smoking weed, too, for myself and my family. We have a 3 year old little boy together. When my bf got out of rehab, he looked great!!! He had gained like 40 lbs!!! He was an inspiration to me BC he was so positive about everything. We started going to church every Sunday and made it to 5 months cleanandsober andhappy with only a couple of disagreements, after which we made up and got over fast. Well, I caught him drinking about a month ago. I forgave him and tried to be supportive. Then I ended up drinking with him one night. We have gone downhill since then. I knew that alcohol made him think of ice, but I guess I was in denial, hoping that he wouldn’t go back to it. In the past 3 weeks, his behavior and attitude have changed so much. He is irritable with me and our son. Where he used to always answer his phone and let me know where he was, he doesn’t answer my calls and disappears sometimes. He goes out to his dad’s shop everyday now for seemingly no reason and doeant stay in there but for maybe 15 mins most of the time. He even stayed gone all night long last weekend without even contacting me or answering his phone once. He admitted that he had been around someone he used to get high with. He has lost about 20 lbs. And he is either tiredand cranky or has energy and is in a good mood. He never wants to spend time with me now, isn’t interested in church or our family. He doesn’t care about my feelings when I tell him I miss him. This hurts so bad BC I can see what he is doing. He is taking away my love and my son’s father. We were supposed to be getting married soon. We have been together almost 5 years. I don’t want to give up on him, and I have no support system of my own. No family. I wish he could see how he is hurting everyone, mainly me and his child. Oh, and he blames his mood swings on stress. And he says that’s why he is losing weight, too. I haven’t found any hard evidence yet. When he was in rehab, I cleaned his house and found so much foil everywhere and baggies and pens. It made me sick. He promised he would never do this to me again. Since he got his truck, he has been acting funny. Makes me wonder if all of the good behavior was fake just to get his truck so he could use again with his newfound freedom. His mom helped him get the truck. He is keeping his job so far, but I wonder how long it will last. I really hope I am just being paranoid. I hope it is really stress and not ice again. I call it an icestorm BC of the destruction. The best thing I can do is take care of myself, focus on my baby and the Lord.

  • Laura Jean Hoeffner

    My roommates son thinks his mom is using meth but all the signs I just read I have never seen with her, so is it wrong for me just to stay out of it?

  • tfaulk13

    Do you know for sure that he has all of the mental disorders that you indicate. With all of his issues and history it almost seems like every item on a checklist that lists the risk factors for becoming a meth addict. What I mean is that just one or two of the issues he has would make him more likely to become a meth user. Since you have listed nearly every risk factor, then the likelihood of meth use is higher. The question is… Are all of these things risk factors for potential meth use or are they symptomatic of meth use. There are compelling arguements for both points of view.
    Either way, the outcome is not easy and the road to treatment and recovery often fail many times and put so many loved ones through hell so many times that it can have an impact on the mental health of the family or loved one. Do not allow this to happen in your life. Do not walk; run away as fast and as far as you can from the impending hell. Do not feel that you can be strong enough to get them clean and sober if they are not admitting to being an addict and very willing to discuss the drug and actively comment on what wrong actions they do while using. Any denial at all is an indicator that they for sure are not ready to quit and until they decide that they want to truly get help, any actions to help will be a total waste of time. You cannot make someone want to quit. You cannot say, ” if you love me, you will quit”. You cannot say, “if you love your child you will quit.” Because it is comparing apples to oranges. To say that if an addict has love for someone they will quit only works if the sole reason the addict began using is because of that person. Do you see how it works now ? Do not ever expect an addict to stop if they love you. It will not and has not ever worked in any situation I have heard of. It actually makes it more difficult for the addict to seek help because they do have the ability to love. They have just lost the ability to express it due to the brain alterations of meth. The meth makes them self centered. All of their actions are like a choreographed scene from a movie that repeats over and over. The desires, urgency and dependency on the drug consumes many hours and it gets worse.

  • waffles

    I’m sorry to hear of this tragedy. You are right that you can’t fix someone – at least unless they want to be fixed. Meth does not let go of people very easily.

  • waffles

    Yes, it is tricky when you have kids. There are things you can do, like try to gauge how good or bad of a day he’s having before letting him see them. Or moving to a location that isn’t as convenient for him. If he gets into any legal trouble, you may want to consult a lawyer and use that as an opportunity to limit his custody or visitation. Your kids and your safety are your top priorities.

  • no name

    My mother in law is a user and she has used for at least 10 years. My father in law has been in recovery for 14 yesrs and also works for a clean and sober house’s. It bothers me that they just play blind and ignore the fact that she is using. Shes a good grandma to my kids. But I cant stand they allow her to just continue using and just turn a blind eye. Can anyone help me understand why they just let this happen?

    • waffles

      While everyone is different, my opinion is that some people just don’t want to deal with it and face the problem. It’s easier to just act like everything is normal rather than “rock the boat” and confront such a problem.

  • Anonymous1

    You’ve all made this so much clearer for me all the signs I saw were real and not me just imagining them I’m so happy I made the choice to leave now I just have to figure everything else out thank you all soo much

  • anonymous

    When I met my friend he was my dream come true. He told me about his past and he would take me everywhere he would go. Now he seldomly ask me to go with him. I’ve noticed that he does a lot of twitching while asleep, he has varies of sores on his stomach, arms and I’m concern about this. Can this be signs of him still on Meth?

  • waffles

    She will have to want to get help for any assistance to be effective. But you can tell her you’ll be there for her, whether to talk or to attending counseling or meetings.

  • jackie

    My 53 year old daughter has been acting strangely for some time, A lot of the same things you wrote about. We tried to talk to her about it but she becomes very angry. She lives by her self, pays her own bills doesn’t ask for a thing from me. But is making very dangerous decision. How can I help her?

    • waffles

      It is hard to help someone who doesn’t want to get help. You can distance yourself from the problem, avoid enabling/supporting her, and be honest to her about your concerns. Most of all, keep yourself at a safe distance. Good luck.

  • brad

    I have been with my partner for a year. When I first met him he was upfront about his past and that he’s been clean for 8 years. he proposed to me on my bday 2 weeks ago. Everything was fine until 5 days ago he spent almost an hour in the bathroom. I went in after he came out and found a meth pipe wrapped in a towel. I confronted him and he lied 3 times. by the 4th time asking he finally admitted using. he said he would stop, then today another meth pipe hidden in the closet. I’m so frustrated, depressed, terrified and feel betrayed. I love to death and I don’t want to give up. I just want him to get help before things get worse.

    • waffles

      Giving up is easier said than done. The betrayal you feel is all too familiar, and it was hard to get past. Even years later, I don’t think I ever did. Good luck, and keep us updated.

  • hopeful

    Hi there!

    Like many of you I have someone in my life that has fallen victim of this terrible poison. As I read the actual article I honestly didn’t learn to much about item simply because I already knew it. It was a bit comforting to not have that alone feeling.

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  • Sarah

    Paula, I would like some advice from you. It sounds like you went through exactly what I am going through right now. I am not ready to give up on my marriage but I don’t know how else to convince him to get help. How do I get him to quit without getting him to admit it first? Where did you send your husbands hair off to get tested? Was it expensive? I have found meth in the house once and saw a couple incriminating text messages but somehow he has an explanation for everything. I feel the same way about his habit. I would rather he had an affair than developed a drug addiction because at least then he would be a healthy liar instead of a liar who is slowly killing himself and setting a bad example for our kids.

  • waffles

    It can be hard to tell sometimes. Besides the eyes, look for other symptoms such as too much or too little sleep, dental or skin problems, odd mannerisms, etc. Do you have another trusted adult with whom you can speak? An aunt, older sibling, or grandparent for example? Or perhaps you could approach your dad and tell him your concerns, if you feel it is safe to do so. Good luck, and please check back with us again soon.

    • trishafaye

      Uh, well his jobs always allowed him too little of sleep, and I don’t know if his teeth or skin would start showing to where anyone would notice would it? like this has gone on for like maybe 3 to 4 months now. And he’s normally a goofy guy but idk how to explain how he acts different like you have to know him cause my best friend noticed he’s been acting strange lately. And I can’t really talk to anyone about it cause my siblings are all younger, and I’m currently trying to live with my dad most of the time so I don’t have to be around my mother… So if anything were to happen I really can’t lose my dad cause then I’d be going through hell all the time with my mother… If he leaves again tonight I could possibly call him out on it. But thanks for some help, I really appreciate it.

      • waffles

        Good luck again, and check back again soon to let us know how it’s going.

  • Cheri


    I feel for you. Trust your instincts and find the courage to go. That being said if you are anything like me you probably won’t. I was given the same advice and is stayed. I don’t want to be negative but the verbal abuse will probably escalate. Several months ago I had posted here and did not think things could really get worse until I was thrown through a wall in October. I filed for a restraining order but they could not find him to serve him. He did get arrested last month for it and has to pay fines, go to counseling and is on probation. I should be done with him but instead am trying yet again to give him another chance hoping this time he can stay clean. It’s a horrible cycle and even if they admit they have a problem it won’t mean it will go away. It’s so hard to love someone with this addiction and watch what it does to them. Please remember to take care of yourself first. My thoughts are with you.

  • Christina

    I’m having a hard time believing my ex of nine years when he tells me he’s not smoking meth. I moved out about a year ago so we can work on things and about two months ago I read a text in his phone saying his buddy was coming over with some spoof. First red flag. Then I went snooping one day in the garage and found six different pipes. Second red flag. I knew that once in a blue moon him and his buddies would get some cocaine or meth to party with, but I found three light bulbs and three pipes. He said his friends were doing stuff a while back and said I was lying about finding six of them. Then I get an email from our landlord telling me she was concerned because rent has not been paid in four months. Third red flag. I don’t love there so I don’t pay rent. We had our car repossessed back in Sept and cost us a lot of money to get back. He said he got behind because of the car. Then said it was none of my business because I don’t live there. He stopped drinking beer and has lost a ton of weight but his face looks sunken in. Fourth red flag. He put cameras up because the house is not in the best neighborhood. I don’t known that’s the reason or he’s becoming paranoid. When I come over we’ll go out to eat, his eyes don’t look dilated, he seems to be acting normal. I think he’s smoking method a few times a week. I don’t know. If I bring it up we just argue. Any ideas?

    • waffles

      Only you know what’s best, but based on my experiences…

      He will probably not admit it, so bringing it up may not do much good, unless you think he will respond to you calling him out on it. You probably never be able to “prove” his meth use, even if you found some on him. I found meth in our apartment once – and she still denied it! You just have to follow your instincts and do what’s in your best interest. He may or may not be doing meth, but the red flags are there, and it doesn’t sound like he’s in a good place.

      Since he is your ex, is it possible to put some distance between the two of you for a while?

      • Christina

        Yeah, it’s possible. I’m trying really hard to finish this semester strong and this is such a distraction. I love him to death but I know letting him go is best. At least for now. Thanks

  • Crystal

    I came across this site and its nice to no I am not the only one who has been deeply hurt by having a loved one addicted to Meth!I have been with my husband for 8 yrs. I think he has used off and on the whole time we have been together but I was to naïve in the beginning to see it. now after yrs of being with him I have the routine down like the back of my hand!! I thought leaving this last time would wake him up but no I came back to only live through it again! I am fed up but I love him but so sick of hurting and seeing my kids hurt I could scream!!!!

  • Kay

    What do you do when you feel like your parents have ruined your life because of their addictions to meth? I love my parents but, I also hate them because, I have to struggle in life because they can’t stop with their addictions. I always want to just disappear and not care about my family but it is so hard when they are the only ones you’ve got & then you have this guilty conscience killing you because you have to help them get help or they will never change but they are my PARENTS! Why do I have to make a move, why did I have to teach myself what is wrong from right. How to get a job, do things on my own, while my grandparents pay for all their stuff in denial and take care of them but, I’m the grandchild and have to do everything on my own! It’s not FAIR! I didn’t ask for this! My parents are so selfish… I wish I wasn’t even born at times because I feel like my mother may have been high while pregnant with me because, I am emotionally messed up, like I was born depressed.

    • Chantal Bourque

      Find a church with Jesus. It will be your only saving Grace. And his most amazing gift is free. Walk right in, or phone a church. You can call a 24 hr prayerline and they will guide you. If someone goes against what I am saying dont get distracted by them, its one of satans tactics. Dont believe me. Look at your parents. The devil comes to kill steal and destroy. Save
      yourself sweetie. I dont gain anything from this.

      • Ken masters

        I’d feel safer leaving my kids with a Meth user than at a church.

    • Rachel Manning

      I’m sorry that you were born into such chaos. If you want to go to church and that’s your beliefs then I’m all for it. But I do not believe it’s your “only saving grace”. I myself am not religious, but I can see you are clearly strong, you have made it this far. But I would suggest getting out of there if you can, for your own health. Maybe see if you can stay with a trusted friend or other family member who doesn’t do drugs. I also recommend therapy, whether it be in person or an anonymous help line; whatever you feel most comfortable with 🙂 I wish you a wonderful life Kay!

  • Confused

    My husband only has few signs everything else he seems to do the opposite. For example he’ll be put all night but sleep like a regular person during the day. If he doesn’t go out he sleeps fine through the night. He doesn’t have bad skin or a loss of appetite. Usually he’ll have the drippy runny nose and he hasn’t had one sniffle. His boogers are filmy an crystally though. No cold sweats but he does twitch in his sleep but he doesn’t yell or scream or talk. Last week I found out he was looking on Craig’s list for escorts, but I think he was just looking at pics. Sex is the same we hardly have it, but when we do we have a good connection usually when he’s high it’s like I’m not there and he’s just trying to get off. His pupils were dilated, but when I turned on a light the adjusted. I’m not sure what to think I want to believe him, but I’m just not sure….your thoughts please :0)

    • waffles

      It will always be difficult to prove meth use unless you catch him in the act. It seems that – based on my experience – the meth user’s pupils remain large even in a well-lit room. From what you have written above, it doesn’t seem that your husband completely matches the description of most meth users I’ve encountered. Then again, not everyone reacts the same. You may try bringing up the topic of meth or drugs – even in a general sense – and see how he reacts to the topic.

  • Hopeless

    My husband has been an on and off again addict for 13 years. The first time he got out of control he kicked me and the kids out when I caught him cheating on me. He literally threw our stuff out of the house. Of course he said he was sorry after losing us (he hates being alone) he came back. That was the worst, his mood swings were out of control. He slept all the time and when he wasn’t sleeping he was out all night. He hit me and put a gun to my head and threatened to kill me and my nephew. I kept telling myself that he was sick and needed and mad it through it. The second time was about 4 years later. I suspected he was cheating (he wasn’t screwing her he was getting high with her) and left. We still saw each other and that’s when I realized that he was using again. He was talking to girls, looking at singles websites, drippy runny nose and very moody. We’re talking one second he loved me and the next he couldn’t stand me. Well we got back together and now just a few months layer I feel that he’s using again. He’s becoming secretive, he stays put all night and when he comes home he’s either very happy or very mad or he sleeps all weekend and his stomach hurts. And it’s always my fault no matter what. The thing is he doesn’t have any normal signs of use. His pupils are only dilated when it’s dark and compared to my kids they look the same. He’s a big guys and eats. He showers and shaves. And the nights that he’s home he sleeps and wakes up like normal. The reason I think he’s using is he’ll sleep on and off all weekend, he’s moody, his boogers are sparkle, and he twitches when he sleeps. I do make comments and he just denies it. I don’t want to keep harping on it, but damn.

  • Shelly

    I agree my meth user, used for better part of 20 years! Lost his wife, his kids, his home, his family, EVERYTHING. He didn’t get “clean” till he spent 6 months in jail for child support. When he got out he had learned to control his addiction to the point if inly getting high occasionally! Then he met his second wife (also an addict) and they started family number two. When his son was 6 months old just started crawling, they had left him with a “friend” and he crawled into a room and ate a “Baggie” of meth. Nearly 6 days later and an obvious near death experience of his son, is what made him finally go through rehab and kick the addiction. 13 years later he hasn’t touched it but will still tell you if someone offered it he couldn’t say no! He moved, left everything he knew behind and started over with a clean slate. Knowing that was his ONLY option of staying of meth. However, he has replaced the meth with alcohol. One addiction for another smh!!!

  • Tim

    My wife of 18 years started staying gone from the house for 7 to 8 hours a day for a wal mart trip, lost about 30 lbs in 30 days, she was in high gear all the time. She did quit her job this was 9 months ago, she moved back in and I noticed last night she left the house at 12 midnight to get cigs and had a half pack, she was gone for 2 hours, she came back and I smelled a somewhat sweet smell on her, and again she was washing clothes and stuff, this was 3 in the morning.. She is verbally abusive, attacks me for anything, I am a disabled Veteran who she is suppose to care for, That smell (Sweet like) is in her clothes and she denied it the last time. What does it look like?

  • mary

    Wow reading your reply was like reading my life! My husband is 41and took off last dec. 7th. He left me and his four boys at the hospital where his 7 year old just had a small bowel transplant. He has taken everything and we are still at thr hospital He got a gf and used openly with her. sad that I am not the only person going through this!

  • waffles

    Great tips, thank you so much for your input – and good luck!

  • Kevin

    I am running into the issue that I have never caught my wife doing METH. though I am curtain at this point she is doing it regularly. I’m also sure that a couple of my neighbors are also users and that’s where she is getting it from. I work a ton of hours and when I am home I dedicate my time to our three children, my wife has had a ton of medical problems, and she’s on a numerous medications. This is always her excuse, but she steals money all the time. Goes to Wal-Mart spend 200 on 100 dollars worth of Juice and Gatoraid and I’m sure gets the rest back as Cash. She is also addicted to Lottery tickets, I just recently opened a new bank account which is where the money will now be deposited. My friends think she’s a drug addict, and I’m tired of defending her to them, and my family. I’m planning on making her take a drug test tonight, but I don’t know what to do from there. Last time I threatened to leave her she said she was going to kill herself, she sat outside with a gun in her lap for a long time, I should have called the police, but I didn’t want to put her through hell, I knew she wasn’t going to do it, she just wanted attention like always. I’m confused, I’m lost, I want to do what’s right for my kids but I don’t even know if I’m a good enough man to raise them. They are great kids and I feel I would just let them down, but I think I’m letting them down more by doing nothing. Right?

    • waffles

      Your kids can’t protect themselves. It’s up to you to do it. You probably already know what you need to do, and I know first hand how hard it is to finally make that move.

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